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The One

July 5, 2016

“The One” is a mythical concept that is destroying your happiness. Yet you place so much pressure on yourself to achieve it.

The one could refer to the one girl, the one job or school, the one house/city/location, etc.

What happens when you don’t get “the one?” Well let’s take a look at your thought process:

“If I only had X, I would be happy/fulfilled/complete.”

Failure to achieve this need want pushes your fulfillment further and further away, as it desperately depends on getting the one.

So, what happens if you do get it? Let’s take a look:

  1. Your fulfillment never happens, thus you find a new “one” to look forward to. The job you wanted? It’s yours. Now you’d be happy if only you got the ostentatious office, the raise,  the big project…
  2. Reality hits you hard, and you realized what you “needed” all along is actually not the right thing for you. But will you change? Nope, you will rationalize yourself into oblivion.
  3. You realize the folly in your approach and begin to exercise gratitude for all that you have, seeing the one in a different light. True fulfillment is now yours. You submit the script of your life to Disney.

You can save yourself a TON of trouble by taking the following phrase to heart:

Happiness Comes From Within.

Say it five times meaningfully. Write it on your mirror. Meditate on it. Do what you must to ingrain this truth into every fiber of your being.

Then do yourself a favor and move towards gratitude for what you have and seek to fulfill yourself. For if any one external thing is the source of your future happiness, then it controls you, emotionally, mentally, and maybe sometimes physically.

If that’s your thing, keep chasing it. But I implore you to turn and find true fulfillment.

Turn within.

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