Have a Plan, Have an Aim
Have a plan. For your life. On a date. In your work. None of this “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” or “Whatever is cool” business.
Sure, plans can fall apart. That’s no reason to fear making one. Just adapt accordingly.
Of course, planning presupposes that you have an aim in mind. You probably do. The key is to be honest with yourself. Are you trying to do your best work on your task, or are you trying to please everyone? Are you trying to make a real connection with a woman, or are you looking to assuage your fear of being alone?
Once your honest, you can change these purposes for more productive ones. With your new purpose in mind, you then develop a plan, and act accordingly. If you went from “get her to not be alone” to “get to know her,” you might just spend less time looking up pick-up strategies and more time actually listening to her (and yourself, for that matter).
If you’ve yet to discover your long term purpose for your life, then focus on just that. Find what motivates you, what gets you up everymorning. Find your “why.” If finding your aim requires you to temporarily move around, then do so. Once again, your aim to find your purpose will yield benefits of clearer planning.